SHOULD I GIVE MY DONOR A GIFT?

Many parents and parents-to-be choose to give their egg donor a gift after the egg retrieval. They feel that their egg donor should to be recognized as the compassionate woman she is, donating to help the recipient parent achieve a pregnancy that they could not otherwise achieve. For many recipient parents it’s a way of completing the circle for closure purposes.

Egg donors take a number of medications, and then go through a surgical procedure to have the eggs retrieved. This as we know requires a sacrifice of their time and a small risk to their health. While it is true that they are compensated for their time, we all like a "thank you" and a pat on the back for a job well done.

Typical gifts might be flowers in the recovery room, a card or letter telling you how important her contribution is to you, a gift certificate, gift card, or something else special. It doesn't have to be expensive, just a token of appreciation.

Some parents-to-be chose not to give their donor a gift, preferring not to establish any emotional connection with their anonymous donor, and that’s perfectly fine as well.